John Ryan, founder of the Savita Education Trust (see http://savitacentre.yolasite.com) and regular contributor to Becoming Better Men has provided a selection of some of his favourite David Deida quotes. We hope you find some value in these:
"Trust, love, what we call sexy, who we trust in a business situation, are all based on how open we are. Openness is bodily openness, muscular relaxation, heart openness as opposed to hiding behind some emotional wall, and spiritual openness, which is actually feeling so fully into the moment that there's no separation between you and the entire moment."
From "Opening Spiritually and Sexually"
"You need to feel your man's trustable presence before you will open your heart and body without guard. It's a step-by-step process of learning. He learns to be more present, you learn to be more open."
From "Finding God Through Sex"
"One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman’s emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax".
David Deida
"Spiritual practice is the capacity to offer your love even when you feel hurt, closed down, tense, angry, misunderstood, or hated." David Deida
"One misunderstanding is that if you do the right thing, then life's storms will stop. If you do the right thing, the storms actually get bigger. This is because they know they can't blow you down like they used to, and now it's going to take a lot more energy to find out if you are conscious."
From "At Your Edge: Spiritual and Sexual Wisdom for Men”
From "Opening Spiritually and Sexually"
"You need to feel your man's trustable presence before you will open your heart and body without guard. It's a step-by-step process of learning. He learns to be more present, you learn to be more open."
From "Finding God Through Sex"
"One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman’s emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax".
David Deida
"Spiritual practice is the capacity to offer your love even when you feel hurt, closed down, tense, angry, misunderstood, or hated." David Deida
"One misunderstanding is that if you do the right thing, then life's storms will stop. If you do the right thing, the storms actually get bigger. This is because they know they can't blow you down like they used to, and now it's going to take a lot more energy to find out if you are conscious."
From "At Your Edge: Spiritual and Sexual Wisdom for Men”
"As a body in a world, here is our choice: we can be more loving or less loving. That's it. We can relax as the entire moment's show of love's swirl, feeling open as all--a vicious rainstorm, tweeting birds, our lover's lips, a sense of worthlessness--or we can close to some aspect of experience, pulling away as if we were separate."
From "Waiting To Love"
"Masculine anger is always because you are feeling constrained, trapped by life. Feminine anger is always because you are feeling unloved."
David Deida
"Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease, or women."
David Deida
"The simplicity of it is this: give everything you have to give in every moment, completely."
David Deida
The trick is not to change yourself. The trick is to become comfortable with yourself.
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